Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the most obvious.
Why is this?
Is it hard because we know the “solution” is so damn obvious that everyone (including your mother) has pointed it out, but yet we can’t bring ourself to actually to what needs to be done.
Like asking for help.
We are all guilty of this one. Whether it’s pride, ignorance, or fear…we’ve all held back asking for help.
- Maybe you didn’t know who to ask.
- Maybe you didn’t know what to ask.
- Or maybe you didn’t want to admit that you are not perfect.
Let me offer you some help (not that you asked) on that last point – you are not perfect. Done. Move on.
Asking for help is one of the most adult things that you can possible do. It’s never easy to do and requires regular practice.
There are many quasi-adults swimming around in the fishbowl we called world who have not learned this lesson. They struggle, they bang their head against walls and desks, and they remain adamant that only they can do their job/ the project/ handle the client.
And then they have the gall to look offended when it doesn’t work out.
But let me ask you:
Did you get the help you needed? Probably not.
Did you ask for the help you needed? Most certainly not.
And for the record, yes I know I may sound rather smug by saying…just do it. There are so many circumstances, factors, reasons, and excuses (yes, excuses) why you just can’t “do it”. But it’s a matter of choice. Just like it’s a choice to go it alone or assume that you can’t ask for help.
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness – it’s a sign of maturity, awareness, and confidence. But here’s the catch – it has to come from you.
It’s your move.
(This post is somewhat of an open letter to my daughter, who is struggling with this, but I fully recognize that it’s completely applicable to many, many others. Including myself).