Sustainable and renewable blog posts

Recycling is not only an encouraged, but expected practice these days.

For that reason, I would like to re-use, renew and recycle a blog post that I wrote awhile back.

Often times we focus on those people that provide us with support at work or complain about those that make our lives difficult. I’m no exception – I’ve been happy to dish on both accounts, but today I wanted to mention someone who has not only supported me in my work, but in pretty much every facet of my life.

Today is my wedding anniversary and I can honestly say, without any pretense of sucking up, that marrying my husband was the best decision I have ever made. Truthfully it started well before we got married, but that was the official start line, I suppose.
That was the starting point for all that we have now – our home, our kids, and our future.
He has been with me through my late teenage years, young adulthood, and now approaching (ahem) mid-life. He has seen me and stuck by me through all my phases, moods, highs and lows. He has been my biggest supporter and sometimes my harshest critic. And I his.
I have often been asked how could I have possibly known at twenty-two (or even seventeen for that matter) that this was the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. That’s tough to answer because it was one of the few things in my life that I didn’t over-analyze so I didn’t have rationale beyond that I just knew. 
I did try to explain it once by saying that I was sure about him because we had gone a number of road trips and when that inevitable silence fell, we were both comfortable and content with just driving. There was no need to force a conversation, to entertain the other person, or worry whether there was something wrong. We enjoyed each other’s company throughout the trip – not just when we got to our destination.
I realize that this sounds counterintuitive coming from someone whose job it is to discourage people from relying solely on their gut. Someone who encourages analysis, supporting documentation, and asking questions. 
Thankfully I don’t always live my life the way I work. 
So now, 22 years later, how can I say that this is still the person that I was to spend the rest of my life with…I still don’t have an eloquent answer, but I can say that I still just know and we are still enjoying the road trip, whatever the destination. 
 Happy anniversary. 



6 Signs That You Should Keep Your Blog

I recently grumbled that there is a lot of blah, blah, blah out there, particularly in the realm of HR.

I am sure this is prevalent in all areas, but since I don’t read blogs written by accountants or econometricians, I can only surmise that there are only so many ways you can bitch about the Sarbanes-Oxley Act or roll your eyes about having to explain linear regression…again.

And one of the surest signs that things are heading south is when you have to resort to the How To List.

Oh and not just any How To List. But a list that will solve all your problems.  A list that is composed of items of such blatant common sense that it will smack you in the face with its true-ness.  A list that will simplify and reduce complex issues like relationships, emotions, and strategic human resources to five easy steps.

Now it bears pointing out that the How To List  is a distinctly different breed than the listing of items.  One is the entire message, the other is purely the medium.

I am not anti-list.  I am anti sell-out.

Recently I explored the idea of sharing my wisdom and wit when I was asked to write a few posts for another blog.  It was a paid gig and I thought, why not give it a g.  Well, first let me clarify that in my naiveté, I mistook “contribute content” for “”writing blog posts”.

That was my first lesson.

I was then asked to submit sample work, which I did in the form of links to selected blog posts that I was particularly proud of (read: had no swearing in them), as well as potential post topic ideas.

The topics were somewhat approved and I was then given some guidance in terms of word count (completely understandable), the target audience (a new concept for me, as I have never assumed there was an audience), and finally the format: all posts were to be in the form of “how-to lists”, ideally with five bullets. No other writing was really necessary (and I suspect at risk of being edited out).

That was my second lesson.

If sarcasm is the sour cream of wit, then how-to lists are the saltine crackers of blog posts.

Needless to say, after serious consideration and deliberating, I decided to pass on this golden opportunity to sell my soul.  And to celebrate, I am going to include a list of six (not five!) reasons why I am going to keep plugging away at my blog.

  1. Someone has to stay old school and keep balance in the universe.
  2. Because when @neilmorrison  tips his hat, it’s generally a good sign.
  3. I finally found something new to vent about (and it’s not HR).
  4. I discovered that it is possible to have an engaging conversation through post comments.
  5. I now have a muse/enabler who is both inspiring and double-daring me to keep going.

And the final reason I am going to keep my blog going:

  1. Because I like it.